Quote:Silvana Montanaro – Understanding the Human Being

Self Esteem

Participation in every day life develops a feeling of worthiness in a person called upon to share it in an active way. Children become not only users of the world in which they live, but also producers. The basic experience of being able to change and transform the environment gives the person a feeling of personal worth that remains forever. “I am worth something” is added to the previous feeling that “I can do things”, and then becomes “I can do important things”.

Guide the Child to Solve the Problem

Step one: Empathy

“How sad.”

“I bet that hurts”.

Step Two: Send the “Power Message”

“What do you think you’re going to to?”

Step Three: Offer Choices

“Would you like to hear what other kids have tried?”

At this point offer a varizty of choices that range from bad to good. It’s usually best to start out with the poor choices. Each time a choice is offered, go to step four, forcing the youngster to state the consequence in his/her own words. This means that you will be going back and forth between step three and step four.

Step Four: Have the Child State the Consequence

“And how will that work?”

Step Five: Give Permission for the Child to either Solve the Problem or not Solve the Problem